It’s one of the best feelings, to ‘bring a new dish’ to the world (no matter how simple it may be) and so I invented some crazy sweet potato yummyness. I roasted the sweet potatoes as always do, but they were white-fleshed and I didn’t like them, so I made this which was just too delicious…
This recipe makes around 8 mini-cakes:
1 white flesh sweet potato – (roasted for 1 hour)
Mash the sweet potato with the banana and shape them into circles using your hands, making sure they’re well bonded and stuck together. Heat butter in a non-stick frying pan, and place the mini cakes on top. Then flip carefully until the other side is golden brown. Best eaten hot, so it’s all buttery!
While everyone in this world strives to get somewhere and become someone, only to leave it all behind after death, you aim for the supreme stage of nothingness. Live this life as light and empty as the number zero. We are no different from a pot. It is not the decorations outside but the emptiness inside that holds us straight. Just like that, it is not what we aspire to achieve but the consciousness of nothingness that keeps us going – Shams Tabrizi
This quote makes me feel like we’re similar to the big bang – born or created from a point of singularity, and as we grow, we expand into a sea of universes, worlds, colours, and shades (our false egos), only to forget that point of nothingness/singularity of peace, quiet, and humbleness. Doesn’t that show how the universe is a manifestation of ourselves? Everything is so interconnected…
I’ve been hurt a lot by friends of all sorts and one day many years ago, I came home from school crying because I didn’t have any friends, because I didn’t find anyone who ‘thinks’ like me. I’m not saying that I was better than anyone else, or more mature, but being the only child, you naturally get more influenced by grown-ups. So when I’m in class, and start talking about the current economic climate or corrupt politicians (because I hear my parents talk about that stuff), other kids naturally run away… My mum told me ‘you are your own best friend’, and my dad told me ‘best friends don’t exist, because they come and go’.
I found that girls are the worst. They get jealous, they gossip behind your back, they want you to look/act a certain way, because somehow their image depends on that, they pretend to be your friend, but you’re actually secret enemies. Of course, that’s a massive stereotype, but I’ve always experienced those sorts of girls in my life.
I thought it would get better when I’m older, since we become more mature, and it does, depending on how you look at it. We all have different priorities, and again, massive stereotype but it’s what I’m currently experiencing: people my age tend to have priorities of being ‘social’, whether it’s having accounts of every single social media company that ever existed or going to parties, getting drunk, etc.
I’m not interested in that, because my soul is not going to benefit from that, but someone else might. I’m not saying I’m ‘right’ or ‘better’, but I’m saying that we’re all taking different paths. And hopefully, we’ll reach the same destination of self-discovery, and self-improvement, even if our methods or ways of living is completely different.
So, what is a real friend?
I define it as someone who uplifts you for no advantage or gain of their own. They do it because they simply love you, respect you, and trust you, which are three highly important things in any friendship or relationship.
But when it comes to friends, it’s totally quality rather than quantity. I feel like just one real, genuine friend, who truly loves you is equal to a million friends, and you would be very lucky to find a friend like that, so smile if you do (and smile if you don’t!)
At the end of the day, you have to learn to become your own best friend, as cheesy as it sounds. You will always have yourself, you sleep with yourself, you wake up with yourself, eat with yourself, and you’re inside yourself. So, make the most out of you, and make sure to have alone time, when you can just talk to yourself and self-reflect, it’s golden time. Funnily enough, the more you bond/connect with yourself, the more easier it will become to bond/connect with other people, since you’re more familiar with your needs and priorities in a friend. And when you can provide for yourself, you can definitely provide for others.
This is not a book review, it’s more of an expression of my love to this novel! The people who know me well are highly aware that I hardly read. I start reading a (fiction) book and my mind escapes into a universe of thoughts and I forget that I’m even reading a book, as my attention span disappears within seconds. Until, one day, my mum got me a novel and she stated that it had a very unique structure and that it has been translated into several languages, so I thought I’d give it a go, since I’m taking English at school, so I better start getting used to reading.
The truth is, I’d recommend this novel to people who love reading, but I’d recommend it even more to people who don’t!
It takes you to a magical place, where you seriously just can’t put it down. I can’t believe I just finished reading a book (massive achievement for me!)
Firstly, it teaches you to discover a deeper dimension of yourself and the people around you. It’s very spiritually charged, yet humble, that would appeal to everyone of any beliefs or backgrounds.
Secondly, it links modern times to ancient times, as it talks about events in history like the crusades, the Mongolian empire as well as exploring lands from an ancient perspective such as Turkey, Iraq, and Syria, which makes it so mysteriously and exotically beautiful. It ties religions and faiths together, as the author wanted closeness of traditions that we’re often encouraged to see as distant from each other.
Thirdly, every chapter is an insight of a character, so you get in their mind, whether it’s the star of the book, a killer, a prostitute, a beggar, and so much more. It’s like you get connected to people of all shades so powerfully. Yet, every single character is somehow spiritually inclined as time goes, so you grow with them.
Fourth, it talks about Rumi (a very popular Sufi poet) and the hardships he faced as he declined in the eyes of society as being a ‘respected scholar’ to a very spiritually humble individual, as he was inspired by the star of the book, Shams of Tabriz, who you will inevitably fall in love with! In fact, the title, ’40 Rules of Love’, was written by Shams, who was an enlightened man who enabled to change and inspire every single character in the book, no matter who they were.
Finally, the story is simply touching and it made me experience larger-than-life emotions while reading it, I must admit, it made me cry (not because it’s so sad, but because it’s so heart-touching). It made me laugh, smile, and think. In addition, every rule of love is something that you can tie to your own life, for me, it’s: While everyone in this world strives to get somewhere and become someone, only to leave it all behind after death, you aim for the supreme stage of nothingness. Live this life as light and empty as the number zero. We are no different from a pot. It is not the decorations outside but the emptiness inside that holds us straight. Just like that, it is not what we aspire to achieve but the consciousness of nothingness that keeps us going – (Rule 33). It inspires me to leave my false ego alone, and to connect more with my true self, not my image. Hence, this website is called ‘Our Beautiful Souls’ as it’s meant to encourage people to focus more on their mysterious and beautiful souls, rather than their outer appearance. This is absolutely relevant to this age today, as a lot of things, such as music, for example, depend on image rather than quality.
To conclude, you have homework, get this book today!
I think that the best indication of how much you love and care for yourself is the time where you don’t have the people who love you connected to you emotionally. When people provide you with love, it feeds your ego. It makes you feel secure, content, and it gets too comfortable. When they suddenly go, and stop feeding you with love, all there is to provide you with genuine love and care is yourself.
I learnt this because I’m naturally independent, but I still need love and care. But when someone who once provided me with everything I want, hurt me, I felt empty, as if a part of my heart was filled by that person, but I can’t fill it with my own love to myself. Suddenly, I just started not caring about things. My health declined, and self-content too. I even stopped blogging and talking to people (well, as much people), as I wanted alone time to self-reflect.
I do feel vulnerable when I write my deepest emotions on the internet, especially when a lot of readers know me in person but have no idea what I’m experiencing. But we need to let go of our egos, and just be transparent with our feelings, because we are all vulnerable. When we were born, we were vulnerable, but didn’t hide it. So, why are we hiding it now?
What happened to me wasn’t bad, it was a mini phase of self-growth. The fact that I point out these negative feelings I have towards myself now, means that I will avoid these feelings in the future. I’m being sensitive enough to distinguish and indicate my emotions, however major or minor, to become a better version of me.
It’s important to become sensitive enough to the workings of your body, mentally, emotionally, and physically, so you can clearly sense when your body is telling you a something (in my case, it’s an unwanted feeling, and my body was telling me to sort it out).
Fret not where the road will take you. Instead concentrate on the first step. That is the hardest part and that is what you are responsible for. Once you take that step let everything do what it naturally does and the rest will follow. Don’t go with the flow. Be the flow.” – Shams Tabrizi