I’m alright, but I feel empty, I feel like something’s missing. I had a tough time at school during exams, exam after exam, I’d go home, empty my mind and input new information in it. But after it’s all finished – I kind of miss it. I miss actually doing something or taking over a task, and going to school for the right reason. After it’s over, I actually feel cold as everyone who’s close to me is somehow far away. My bonding with people I love isn’t as strong as it usually is. I feel vulnerable but in the safest place on Earth. I watch the news and cry at innocent people suffering, who are so strong and experience the toughest of memories and I think “I could have been born there”. Why am I so lucky? I have everything yet I feel empty. A lot of things are kind of at the same time – ultimate decision making on what I’d like to study next year and I have no idea what I want to do in the future. Everyone’s telling me something different, “take English”, “maths is too hard”, and all I want to do is be like the good old days, where I just leave school, work, and rise up. But now, I have to have qualifications. But what? I have aims. I want to help people and make a positive impact on people’s lives, sounds so cliche, I know. But, I seriously, believe more than anything that I will do something highly successful. Not because I’m so self indulgent, but because I have a real, powerful drive to do so. My emotions drive me like a rocket, they enable me to succeed, be strong and ensures that nothing gets in my way. Persistence, but also stubbornness is the most powerful tool for success, the most successful people in history ‘failed’, yet their success came out of stubbornness and an inner passion to achieve. Since the World Cup is on, in my eyes, the difference between a great player and a normal player is one that can dribble the ball from one end of the pitch to the other and score a goal due to their aims being energetically aligned with their body and inner power that makes them unstoppable.
What, if anything, makes you so persistent, or stubborn that you’re so unstoppable?
Do you automatically trust in the experts when information comes you? What I mean by ‘expert’ is the person with the PHD because you may believe that they know more than you, the police officer because you believe that they can protect you, the bus drivers because they know where they are going. That internet passage on the existence of God should totally be believable, so you don’t have to think too much about it. Don’t think for yourself, have the information provided for you. Take it, eat it, just don’t think about it. That is how the media feeds us everyday. Feeding us fear, desire, and emotion for us to consume.
You need to learn to trust in yourself and in your heart before trusting logic. Logic is only worth something when we put a value to it with our hearts. But logic can never put value to our hearts.
What makes someone an expert has to be more than just a paper saying ‘doctor’ or ‘teacher’, learn to trust yourself before others!
An example to demonstrate what I mean is the controversial Milgram Experiment, testing people’s obedience to authority. The people automatically trust the person in the white coat because of course, he ‘knows’ more…
When this experiment was first done in 1961 in the USA, the shocking results show that ‘65% of the volunteers continued to play their part as ‘teacher’ right to 450 volts, even after the victim’s screams and silence…In Munich, it was 85%…In other words, 3 out of 4 men will be ready to torture and kill to order without questioning’. Is this all for the name of science?
‘ this experiment shows – to the point where established anonymous authorities like ‘the state’, ‘science’, or even ‘the revolution’ can make everything legitimate by the way of a rubber stamp, white coat or armband’.
Another example is that how everything in the diet fitness world is so ‘factual’. In order to build a load of muscle, of course you need excess calories and you need to use very high weights for lower reps. Eugen Sandow, a Victorian bodybuilder (pictured below), apparently used to train with only 5lb dumbbells in the morning, and stated ‘I am myself no believer in a special diet, still less in a rigid one, as necessary while training…I endeavour to have my meals at regular hours, and prefer that they shall be simple and easy of digestion.’
Just because a fitness trainer claims this and that or a dietitian promotes a new bar that can turn you around overnight and makes you forget that nature (fruit and vegetables) exist. Or the ones who claim that fruit will turn into fat if you don’t burn it off. Really? Find what works for you, and sticking to nature won’t let you down (as cliche as it may sound).
In conclusion, analyse information, (whether it’s on the news, in a book or said by the president), don’t just digest it. You are a free being.
Take ‘risks‘ everyday. Risks can be anything from saying “hi” to a stranger, to talking in front of 2000 people spontaneously or even asking someone out. We all have our comfort zones and the more we get out of them, the bigger they get! I know individuals who can’t walk in a class when they’re late because they’ll get embarrassed in front of “all those people”, or others who refuse to walk in Harrods because they don’t look like they “fit in” and also people who refuse to make eye contact with teachers. Why squeeze in a little tight space when you can get out, explore and discover to widen your comfort zone? I’m not going to get into various reasons to take your risks. I’m going to say to just do it. Without too much thought, just do it. Taking risks is not an ability, it is simply a choice. Expanded your comfort zone? Hey, there’s more to roam!
What risks did you make today?
You always hear that you have a choice, but what does it actually mean? Usually, people think that they have a choice when there is a decision to make. However, I think differently. I believe that you have a choice in how to live every moment in your life. Every moment in your day can be special, you don’t have to win the lottery or travel to another country to have special moments. For me, those little moments in the day are actually what makes up my life, memories and smiles. Regardless of the decisions you make, rules in your house (if you live at home with family), or any ‘barriers’, you have that choice. Be free! Freedom doesn’t mean that your parents let you out the house whenever you can, it is simply a thing from within that makes you truly free in how you live every moment, emotions, actions, and reactions. Choose to make the most out of every moment in your life, and love it!
For example, I had a big argument with my mum the other day, and it lasted for 30 minutes. It was rage. Shouting, screaming, swearing and just pure anger. Afterwards, I thought about all the energy we wasted on that fight. I told my mum that we could have used that energy to create peace. We could have cooked something together, danced together, even given charity online. However, was it really wasted energy? No, because we learnt something from it. Choose to make the most out of your mistakes. Learn from them and carry on. Not everyone gains the same lessons from mistakes, so praise it when you truly learn from your mistake. Let it help to develop yourself.
Essentially, you choose how you spend your energy, you can use it to create peace, happiness, and love in every moment in your life. Regardless of where you live, who you live with, rules, or any barriers. That is freedom.
In my eyes, there are two ways of doing something. Say you want to tone up and slim down. You can do it because you hate your body, you dislike your physical features and want to change. And you can do it because you love your body, want to improve yourself, and want to discover and grow with yourself in your amazing body and journey. There are two ways in how you eat that tub of ice cream. Enjoy it, make the most out of that moment and smile as you eat it, or think ‘this is going to make me fat, I’m going to regret this, I hate my life’. There are two ways to do almost everything, enjoy it and make the most out of every moment! You have a choice!