You Just Need To Let Go

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I’ve been trying to let go of that urge to control things. Sometimes I just love things being in my hand and me in control of what’s going on. My hands just grasp on it for my sanity. But I need to let go. I need to let go and accept that whatever will be, will be. There’s been a long time when that feeling of control wasn’t really there or wasn’t so intense. I was in a healthier frame of mind. But now with all sorts of things becoming quite unknown to me and overwhelming to me, there’s this need to control as much of my current life as I can and to hold on tight because of a vulnerability of mine. I need to realise that whatever will be will be, loosen up my fingers and just let go. The worst thing that could happen is perhaps the best thing that could happen, because it’s meant to be. Things should happen freely and flowingly, rather than forced and controlled.

It’s okay if you let go. It’s okay. You don’t own anything, remember that. You are actually not in possession of anything, life doesn’t owe you anything, you’re not supposed to own ‘this or that’. Because you just don’t.

My fear holding me back from letting go requires me to waste my energy and hold onto something with all my power and strength so it allegedly doesn’t disappear from my life. Impossible. It’s a waste of my energy, when we can just let go, let it all be free, and rather than hold onto something, just flow like a feather so light and free in the air. It’s like holding onto the bar of a helicopter and finally letting go so you’re alone just supported by the air. Let it take you. Let it take you away and just let go. Breathe, finally breathe.

Learn to love the journey and enjoy every moment of it without holding onto anything.

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I feel like I’m not fully expressing myself. I feel so distant from myself, from my emotions, clouded by illusionary thoughts, clouded by an image that is not me. I need to set free. I feel overwhelmed, tears come out of my eyes so smoothly making way to anything. I’m so fragile so in need. In need of myself since I’m not providing for me. I keep letting everything go, letting myself go, losing myself. I hate it.

Too much empathy?

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I’ve been empathising and feeling people so much, to the point where I feel that I’m them and it shocks me to feel what they feel. It scares me. My heart feels like it doesn’t belong to me, because it’s filled with the emotions of others, until I wake myself up, and find me, to relocate myself back to me. It opened up my eyes more to what I really want in my life, and not to do what they did. I do it too much. I feel overwhelmed. I love feeling, because to me, they are my experiences. The more I feel, the more I experience. Therefore, I always try to understand others, and feel what they feel. I love it. But recently, I’ve been doing it too much, to the people who are closest to me, to the extent where I’m physically shaking and feel like I have no energy. I prayed, asking God to fill my heart with his love. I felt much better. I don’t know how much is too much. I don’t know if I should continue or stop myself. I feel like it’s a duty that I have. I empathise with everyone, the ‘good’ and ‘bad’, I guess it’s because I have a natural care for people, or that I’m opened to people. There’s no right way or wrong way to do anything. I believe sharing ideas, emotions, and thoughts is the way to being closer together. It’s common ground, rather than distancing ourselves from each other through the increasing barriers between us, when from inside, we all really are the same.

Do you put all your trust in the ‘experts’…?

Do you automatically trust in the experts when information comes you? What I mean by ‘expert’ is the person with the PHD because you may believe that they know more than you, the police officer because you believe that they can protect you, the bus drivers because they know where they are going. That internet passage on the existence of God should totally be believable, so you don’t have to think too much about it. Don’t think for yourself, have the information provided for you. Take it, eat it, just don’t think about it. That is how the media feeds us everyday. Feeding us fear, desire, and emotion for us to consume.

You need to learn to trust in yourself and in your heart before trusting logic. Logic is only worth something when we put a value to it with our hearts. But logic can never put value to our hearts.

What makes someone an expert has to be more than just a paper saying ‘doctor’ or ‘teacher’, learn to trust yourself before others!

An example to demonstrate what I mean is the controversial Milgram Experiment, testing people’s obedience to authority. The people automatically trust the person in the white coat because of course, he ‘knows’ more…

When this experiment was first done in 1961 in the USA, the shocking results show that ‘65% of the volunteers continued to play their part as ‘teacher’ right to 450 volts, even after the victim’s screams and silence…In Munich, it was 85%…In other words, 3 out of 4 men will be ready to torture and kill to order without questioning’. Is this all for the name of science? 

‘ this experiment shows – to the point where established anonymous authorities like ‘the state’, ‘science’, or even ‘the revolution’ can make everything legitimate by the way of a rubber stamp, white coat or armband’.

Another example is that how everything in the diet fitness world is so ‘factual’. In order to build a load of muscle, of course you need excess calories and you need to use very high weights for lower reps. Eugen Sandow, a Victorian bodybuilder (pictured below), apparently used to train with only 5lb dumbbells in the morning, and stated ‘I am myself no believer in a special diet, still less in a rigid one, as necessary while training…I endeavour to have my meals at regular hours, and prefer that they shall be simple and easy of digestion.’

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Just because a fitness trainer claims this and that or a dietitian promotes a new bar that can turn you around overnight and makes you forget that nature (fruit and vegetables) exist. Or the ones who claim that fruit will turn into fat if you don’t burn it off. Really? Find what works for you, and sticking to nature won’t let you down (as cliche as it may sound).

In conclusion, analyse information, (whether it’s on the news, in a book or said by the president), don’t just digest it. You are a free being.

 

Why Women Should Lift Weights

womanliftingThere seems to be a common belief that the best exercises ever developed for womankind is cardio (lots of it), squats, and lunges. In addition, heavy weight lifting will turn women into Arnolds. However, if you genuinely want to change your physique, you need to start lifting heavy. Women don’t have the ability to bulk up because they don’t have anything near as much testosterone as men. As well as that, women don’t consume enough calories or supplements and lift heavy on a regular basis.

 

Benefits:

  • Faster metabolism: A study found that the average woman who strength trains two to three times a week for two months will gain nearly two pounds of muscle and will lose 3.5 pounds of fat. Also, your resting metabolism will be higher the leaner you are. If you want to slim down, combining cardio with weight training will help you get to where you want twice as fast compared to cardio on its own.
  • It actually creates definition. Doing cardio on its own will leave you feeling shapeless and undefined. You need muscles to sculpt your body.
  • Stronger: Research shows that moderate weight training can increase a woman’s strength by 30 to 50 percent. Increasing your strength can actually change how you perform your everyday activities, giving you more energy (because your muscles are working, rather than just momentum).
  • Decreased risk of osteoporosis, heart disease, and arthritis
  • It puts you in a great mood!

Don’t be afraid of lifting heavy if you dramatically want to change your body! Our bodies are made to lift as well as to run! lifting